I have decided to begin a series titled “Inspired to Appreciate”. Every other week I will write based upon things we should appreciate in life. On that note; this week I was inspired to write about appreciating women. I find that although we, as a society, have moved a monumental load from the way in which we used to treat women as a whole, we still have improving to do. The stereotype and demeaning principles to women may have declined dramatically but there is still a definite said weakness associated with women. Women still have certain roles they must participate in, and certain other roles they are excluded from.
Personally, I believe in equality and mutual respect for the genders. No gender greater than the other. Each gender being able to preform similar tasks in which their bodies allow. Each gender being able to emotionally act as the other. Each gender being equal in standards of ability and capacity. Each gender blooming in their own ways which soon become the same ways.
I believe that the genders were made to compliment each other in strengths and weaknesses. When they engage in marriage I believe that they act as the support and encouragement for one another. They are no longer two but become one. This not giving one gender more power or intelligence. Instead they act as one person; adding to each other; filling each other to completion. Such a thing as dominance should not exist in a relationship. The man and woman act mutually. Building and creating with each other. This is the ideal relationship. This is what people should strive towards.
On the topic of women without the man, there is different perspectives in that area as well. Many have created a purpose of women to marry and have children which still exists today. There is a tendency to encourage women to aspire to marriage. A society can teach girls that it is more important to receive the attention of a man rather than develop intelligence or dream individually.
A female Nigerian writer named Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie said it perfectly in a speech about women quoting, “We teach girls to shrink themselves,To make themselves smaller. We say to girls,”You can have ambition But not too much.You should aim to be successful, But not too successful. Otherwise you will threaten the man”. Because I am female,I am expected to aspire to marriage
I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support, but why do we teach to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to each other as competitors; not for jobs or for accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, But for the attention of men.”
This quote is said perfectly; basically embodying what I think for myself. I know that as a society we have changed. We have allowed so much more freedom and opportunity for women, but there is still progress to be made. There are still more doors to be opened. There are still more dreams lying within the hearts of women an equality alike. There is still the inspiration to appreciate women in their fullness.